Wednesday, November 2, 2011

How People Lose 100 Pounds!



scale22I am in awe of people who make a decision to lose a huge amount of weight—75 pounds, 100, even more—and then do it. I’m not talking about The Biggest Loser contestants, who do it for money and fame. I mean those who, privately and without fanfare, commit themselves to diet and exercise, set a distant goal, and then slowly chip away—one difficult pound after another difficult pound after another. The payoff is so far away. How do they stay motivated for the long haul? How do they even get started?
Classical theories of motivation fail to explain such long-range commitment. These theories suggest that motivation increases as we approach our goals, as they come within reach—which explains how we psych ourselves up to shed pound 97, 98, 99 and 100. But how about pound 1, and pound 3, and 9? How do people get charged up to begin with, and over that first hump, when the slog is so long and exhausting?
A new theory of goal pursuit may shed light on how we deal with the early stage of a long-range commitment. Northwestern University psychological scientist Andrea Bonezzi and colleagues wondered if personal motivation might be influenced by the way we think about progress—how we value each step toward a goal. Think of it this way: If we’re focused on the ultimate goal—say losing 100 pounds—then each of the last pounds—97, 98, 99—is indeed more motivating than each early pound. But what if we’re focused not on the goal weight, but on our starting point? Then each of the early lost pounds has more value, and is more motivating. Is it possible that we naturally begin with a focus on the starting gate, and then switch to the finish line only later on?
That’s the idea that the scientists decided to test in the lab. They ran three experiments, including this one:
The scientists recruited a group of volunteers to proofread nine essays for typos—tedious work. They all did the same work, but the scientists manipulated the way they thought about their progress. Some started off seeing nine icons, each representing one essay; as they finished each essay, one icon would disappear, from left to right. In other words, they forced these volunteers to focus on how much work was left to go. The others focused on work completed so far. They initially saw an empty row, and one icon was then added for each essay completed, left to right. A third group simply saw a line of nine washed out icons, with whatever one they were working on at the moment highlighted.
The researchers measured each volunteer’s performance, in time and accuracy, and also assessed their attention—whether they were looking forward or backward. The results, reported on-line in the journalPsychological Science, clearly supported the new theory. Those who were focused on the ultimate goal performed as classical theory would predict, increasing in accuracy and speed as they got closer to the finish line. But those who were focused on their progress from the starting line showed the opposite pattern: Their performance peaked close to the beginning, then declined. The third group was perhaps the most interesting: These volunteers were more focused—and equally focused—in the beginning and at the end. Their performance fell off in the middle, presumably because their motivation slackened. What’s more, motivation clearly dropped off when they lacked a clear reference point—either a starting line or a finish line.
In the words of Bonezzi, they were “stuck in the middle.” These findings suggest a previously undiscovered vulnerability to relapse, occurring in that no man’s land halfway to a distant goal. In other words, the real obstacle to losing 100 pounds may not be pounds 1, 3 and 9—but rather pounds 48, 51 and 56.

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Panic Attacks and Anxiety---How to exercise through them! It's ok to be scared!




Photo credit: Thomas Hawk
I’ve had more honest-to-goodness panic attacks in my life than I can count. And by “honest-to-goodness,” I mean the real deal: racing heart, palpitations, nausea, dizziness, shortness of breath, incredibly unsolicited surges of adrenaline…and so on. Simultaneously.
Many people — from friends to doctors — told me to start exercising. My friends said it would reduce my stress and help me to sleep better at night. The University of Georgia says it can reduce my anxiety. My doctor told me that getting in shape will reduce heart palpitations and increase my lung capacity.
True, true, and true. But here’s the big Catch-22 that kept me from following everyone’s good advice: exercising made me panic.
And why? Well, a body that’s going through a nightmarish panic attack is physiologically similar to a body that’s happily jogging along a park trail:
-Heart rate: Increases during panic. Increases during exercise.
-Breathing rate: Increases during panic. Increases during exercise.
-Adrenaline: Increases during panic. Increases during exercise.
I could go on, but you get the idea. Exercise can feel like a panic attack. And who wants to willingly invoke THAT awful feeling?
Well, me.
I grit my teeth as I write this. I don’t want to face this fact, but it’s true: for the umpteenth time in my life, I have become afraid of exercise. The rapid heart rate reminds me of my worst ohmygod-I-swear-this-is-a-heart-attack breed of panic attacks. I am always afraid that the quick breathing will make me pass out — even though I know the extra oxygen I’m inhaling is 100% necessary, normal, and natural during physical activity. And the inevitable adrenaline rushes? They make me want to bolt. Straight out of the gym. To quickly escape the (intangible) threat that is my own fear.
And I hate these faulty associations. A rapid heart rate, as I’m sure I learned in 6th grade health class, is a healthy effect of exercise. The heart is a muscle, exercise strengthens that muscle, yadda yadda, and so on. I know this stuff. I know this stuff deep down in the rational part of my brain, but I simply can’t bring that notion — that exercise is safe and healthy and won’t hurt me — to the front burner when I’m standing on my treadmill.
That said, I am determined to start exercising again.
I decided to take everyone’s advice & expose myself to the miracle cure that is physical exercise. I tied my sneaker laces and walked to the gym.
I had a panic attack on the elliptical and I never went back.
Over the next few months, I slowly trained myself to let go of my exercise fear. Thankfully, I took notes. Here’s what I jotted down as a how-to guide for my future self:
1. Start in a comfortable environment. Skip the gym, for now, if it triggers agoraphobia or any sense of unease. Even if you don’t have any fancy equipment, you can begin to exercise in your own home or apartment. Try a few of these activities. Dancing and jogging in place might look a little silly, but they’re legit ways to get your heart pumping.
2. Take baby steps. You don’t need to jump right into the 20-minutes-3-times-per-week deal. Treat yourself kindly. If the sensations of exercise scare you, start slowly. See if you can run in place or dance for thirty seconds. Then, stop. Don’t overdo it on the first day. Try a full minute on day 2. If that works, try two minutes the next day. Such a gentle schedule might sound laughable, sure, but don’t let anyone tell you that you ought to be doing more right away. The goal, at this point, is to reacquaint yourself with the physical sensations of exercise. Two minutes of dancing around in your apartment is better than nothing at all.
3. Distract yourself from the uncomfortable sensations (at first). Sure, the long-term goal for anyone suffering from frequent panic attacks ought to be one that involves developing a tolerance for those disconcerting sensations like lightheadedness and muscle fatigue. Ultimately, learning to cope with those panicky feelings — feelings that might never disappear 100% — will allow you to live a less limited life. But for now, if distraction can help you get through a few exercise sessions and onto a better path, all the better. Try focusing on music while running or dancing, or try watching a TV show in your living room while doing pilates. If you pay attention to the plot line, the musical beat, or the lyrics — instead of focusing such strict attention on your body — your exercise session will probably feel less daunting.
4. Expose yourself to the sensations of exercise (and panic) in other ways. If feeling hot or sweaty is a panic trigger for you, try hanging out in your bathroom for a little while after showering. Feel the warmth and allow yourself to sweat a little bit. Notice the sensations on your skin. Simply pay attention to the way your hands, legs, and body feel. The more often you become aware of and accept these sensations, the more you’ll desensitize yourself to their discomfort.
Tomorrow, you’ll find me dancing around in my living room for about two minutes. (And I will probably look ridiculous, so I’ll be sure to close the curtains. You’re welcome.)
But next month, you’ll find me jogging around the block.

Sunday, October 16, 2011


Feelin’ Funky?

…and not in a good way? We’ve all been there; everything sucks, everyone is stupid, you can’t do anything right and nothing is ever going to get any better.
When you’re in a funk it can be really, really hard to see your way out of it.  I’ve experienced my fare share of funks and I want to provide you with some easy, practical ways to get you out of that nasty funk!  Ask yourself these questions:
  • Is there anything you need to get done that you have been putting off? It can be anything from cleaning your apartment, shaving your legs, getting your finances in order, or ending a toxic relationship.  The key is ACT NOW.  Don’t let these things pile up until they seem too big and scary to manage.  The minute you think about it, DO IT!  If you’re walking around your home thinking, ‘Man I really need to vaccume.” then guess what honey, there’s no better time than right now.  It will only take a few minutes but you will feel so much better once it’s done. Otherwise everywhere you go you’ll be thinking the same negative string of thoughts, ‘I need to vaccume, it’s so dirty in here, I hate how dirty the floor is, I can’t believe I haven’t vaccumed yet, I always say I’m going to do things and I never do…’ Then those negative thoughts start picking up momentum and before you know it you’re headed for total-breakdownsville.  Act now, thank me later ;)
  • Are you getting enough sleep? Sleep deprivation will definitely put you on a one way street to funky town.  If I don’t get my beauty rest, I am impossible, guaranteed. Get your Zzz’s and if you’re having trouble falling asleep or getting good quality sleep, try a live-source melatonin (don’t waste your time with synthetics they will do nothing for you).  
  • Are you eating right? When we’re feeling down we tend to gravitate toward junk food and processed foods but they are only going to exacerbate the situation.  Your body actually needs good stuff to run properly.  You wouldn’t put orange juice in your car’s gas tank, don’t put chemical laden processed foods down your food tube; it’s not made to run on that stuff!! Give your body something it can actually use and get yourself some fruits & veggies, asap.  You don’t need to go crazy, just one meal a day will help increase your nutrient reserves so you can start feeling like you again. Try some simple recipes to get you started.
  • What are you saying to yourself? What’s that little voice inside saying?  Is it cheering you on saying, “Go Girl, you rock!! You’re awesome! You are the best at what you do! I love everything about you!!” or is she saying, “You suck. You are so stupid, you always mess everything up.  Why do you even bother, you are just going to fail in the end like you always do.”  Unfortunately, I, and most people out there, are usually guilty of the latter.  It is an amazing and life transforming practice to switch to the former.  I don’t know that anyone ever moves entirely beyond the negative self-talk but the very least we can do is become conscious of it and make a change.  My little trick is that anytime I start to stress or engage in some not-so-nice self talk I repeat the following affirmation over and over again, “I love and approve of myself.”  And I just repeat and repeat and repeat and repeat…over and over and over again. With affirmations there is no such thing as too much!  In her book You Can Heal Your Life, Louise Hay states that the average person has between 300-400 negative thoughts per day.  That’s a LOT!  Now try to think how many times you say something positive to yourself, it is surely minuscule in comparison. You are awesome, there is no one like you, you are beautiful, you have the strength and the courage to get through the rough spots and that is inspiring in it’s own right.
  • Have you done something nice lately? Doing nice stuff and being nice to other people makes us feel good, period.  Give a stranger a compliment. Write a friend or family member a handwritten card telling them how amazing they are.  Send it in the mail with a stamp, it will mean so much more than email!  Offer to take care of a couples kids so they can have some alone time or go on a date night.  Let someone in your lane on the highway. 



  • Where are you? Where are your thoughts taking you?  Are you living in the past, playing reruns of all the mistakes you’ve made or the people who did you wrong?  Or are you constantly trying to predict the future?  Will I get that job?  Will I find my soul mate?  Will I ever find my true passion?  What if I don’t succeed?  What if I end up alone?Listen honey, you can’t relive the past and you can’t predict the future so you may as well live in the present.  Eckhart Tolle says in his book The Power of Now, ”Nothing ever happened in the past; it happened in the Now. Nothing will ever happen in the future; it will happen in the Now…Life is now. There was never a time when your life was not now, nor will there ever be.” THIS. IS. IT. LIFE IS HAPPENING RIGHT NOW and if you are daydreaming about the past or the future, you’re missing it!! Bring your thoughts back to the present moment.  For example, I could be sitting here thinking ‘I’ve got so much work to do, what if I just can’t keep up?  What if I fail?  What if I lose my house? I’ll be broke. What if I have to move? What if I end up on the street or under a bridge?!’ A little dramatic, yes, but don’t act like your thoughts don’t get a little dramatic too!  So what’s the reality?  The reality is that I’m a woman, sitting in a chair, writing an article about fighting Funkdom.  That’s it.  I’m here, I’m okay, I’ve got a roof over my head & food in my belly, I’ve got central air, great pets, a great life, comfy furniture and I’ve got you guys!  Get yourself back to reality, don’t try to predict the future or relive the past, it’s impossible and trying to do so will not only drive you mad but further down funk road.
Funks are tough but I hope some of these tips will help you remember just how fabulous you are.  Because you know what?! You are really  FABULOUS! I’ve been getting the most loving and insanely inspiring comments, messages, tweets, and emails from you guys and I have to say, the love in my heart runneth over.
Act now, be nice to yourself, take care of yourself and do some nice things for others. You’ll be out of that funk in no time!
xo

Change Your Head and The Rest Will Follow!


The multi-billion dollar diet industry wants people to believe that managing weight takes a complete diet overhaul, giving up their favorite foods and participating in specific exercises. The reality is that busy parents simply don’t have the time or energy to do these things for long.
As the owner of Kickin' It! , I believe maintaining a healthy weight does not have to be complicated. In fact, I think it’s much, much easier than people realize.
When I learned the following lessons, my weight started to naturally fall to the right place for me. And the best part about it wasn’t my stable weight, but how simple and enjoyable eating had become.

Lesson #1. Eat what you want.

“Do you even enjoy eating, Tammy?” was the question a friend had for me as I bemoaned about bread served with butter already on it. That question changed  how I viewed food.
I realized that I was so caught up in “good” and “bad” food — and my weight — that I no longer enjoyed eating. When I finally did eat the “bad” food, I’d eat too much. And I’d eat too much of the “good” food because it wasn’t always what I truly wanted to eat. I was simply eating too much!
So instead of categorizing food as “good” or “bad,” I included all foods in my diet without judgment. What I discovered rocked my world. My body didn’t crave junk — it wanted mostly nutritious foods with smaller amounts of my favorite sweets.

Lesson #2. Let your stomach decide.

Something amazing happened after I learned lesson number one: I started listening to my body more.
Because I could eat any food I wanted, any time I wanted, my desire to overeat practically disappeared. No more stuffing myself on vacations, on Friday nights or at birthday parties. When I got comfortably full and satisfied, I’d leave food on my plate. I watched my body signals, took my time to sit for meals, and ate more slowly.
If you really pay attention to your stomach and its signals, you won’t have to count calories or eat food that doesn’t satisfy. This should be the first nutrition lesson your toddlers get: when they want more food or ask to leave the kitchen table early,  ask them what their tummy says.

Lesson #3. Make feeding yourself a priority.

Feeding myself regular meals and snacks has never been a problem of mine, but it has been so for many of my clients.
The rare times I do skip breakfast, or put off a meal later than it should be, I’m attacked by a relentless hunger later that is hard to satisfy. The better job I do feeding myself during the day, the easier it is to manage my hunger overall.

Lesson #4. Get enough slumber.

When I had my second child, the extra weight lingered for much longer than it did the first time around. And it was due to one thing: lack of sleep. My son was colicky and slept horribly the first four months of his life.
Research shows that inadequate sleep is associated with higher weights.Scientists believe that hunger hormones rise in sleep-deprived individuals, causing hunger and overeating.
So when I find myself wanting to eat 24/7, I check my sleep, and often find it’s time to go to bed earlier or have a sleep-in day.

Lesson #5. Follow those passions.

“I’m happy,” was the answer a co-worker gave me after I asked about the considerable amount of weight she had lost. She told me she had finally pursued her passion of acting and recently landed a role in a play. Being involved in something she loved made eating less attractive, and she lost weight without even trying.
I believe I used to eat more for this same reason. I was scared to do the things I really wanted to do, and food was a nice comfort. But as I slowly started taking chances in life and found activities that made me feel alive, food became less desirable.
So there they are — five simple lessons that helped me get (and stay) at a weight that’s right for me. You’ll notice that I didn’t mention a thing about carbs, fat or calories.
I believe what matters most for weight management is “how much” someone eats. And for me, discovering what caused me to eat more than my body needed made the biggest difference. It really can be that simple.
So tell me, what lessons have you learned about keeping weight management simple?

Monday, October 10, 2011

If at first you don't succeed.....

Try and Try and Try again!!!!


I just started a new weight training/cardio fitness plan today.


 I am still slowly losing weight (after a very small setback) 


but just wanted to give everyone an update. As most of you


 know, I own a weight loss/fitness business. I felt it was 


important to let people know that just because you choose to


 make health and fitness a priority, it doesn't mean that you


 will always be perfect or 100% fit. I strive to do my best


 everyday. Sometimes I succeed, other times not. My point is,


 we are all human, and all or nothing is never good in


 anything. Life is a constant learning experience and as long


 as you are striving to do better, that is what counts! Don't let


 the setbacks discourage you, it happens to everyone, how


 you overcome your obstacles and your commitment to


 become your best self is what is important!

Friday, September 30, 2011

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